Regardless of the behavior, whether we are dealing with temper tantrums or alcoholism, we will be approaching the issue the same way. We must begin with working on the way we feel about it. When we perceive someone as having bad behavior, we begin to focus on it, and in this life... What we think about, we bring about.
So using the Changing Our Beliefs Worksheet to remove the thoughts that are causing us pain, not only relieves the pain, it begins to change reality and allow the other person to change.
Using the Changing Our Beliefs Worksheet works both on removing our beliefs, but it then works on the other person and helps stop the behavior.
The worksheet asks, "What is upsetting me?" The answer could be. "My friend is drinking too much. He is getting angry, and it frightens me." When we dump that answer into the worksheet process, the Full Court of Atonement first works to resolve the reasons we believe they are drinking too much, etc. But then it asks to resolve the reasons they are drinking too much, etc.
Resolving the reasons we believe it stops us from continually focusing on it and prevents us from recreating it with our thoughts. This is really important.
What we think about... We bring about. The thoughts we think today create our tomorrow. So take a look at the thoughts you have and dump the ones you don't want to relive. If you are aiming to clear up bad behavior and you intend to put the person in a Full Court of Atonement to stop that behavior. Ask to resolve the reasons they are compelled to act that way. Using the alcohol example: I, _______, place my friend _______ into a Full Court of Atonement with the entirety of his/her family lineages for the purpose of analyzing his/her timeline and resolving any and all reasons he/she feels compelled to drink alcohol.
You might also aim for the desired results.
I, _______, place _______ into a Full Court of Atonement for the purpose of creating happiness and joyous sobriety.
You can also think about the person you are working with and if you can think of hardships in their life that might be behind the behavior. Put them in a Full Court of Atonement using the standard statement and aim to resolve the conflicts behind the behavior.
using our example of the friend who is drinking, if we know that they have been through a breakup. Use the standard statement between them and their ex.
If they had a harsh childhood, use the standard statement between them and their parents and siblings. I, _______, place _______ into a Full Court of Atonement with _______. I ask to analyze their timelines and resolve any and all conflicts between them at their points of origin. I ask for amenable dissolution of this energy.
Remember to work on the way you think about things first. This helps you to stand in your power and the Full Court of Atonement to obtain better and quicker results.
Written by Amy Jo Ellis © 2024
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